As ubiquitous as phone sex is these days, it’s still surprising that many of us feel like we’re just plain bad at it. Don’t get discouraged though, you can still spice up your LDR or long term relationship with just a little help from the pros. We talked to the queens of sexy chat at Indian Sex Talk, India’s number one provider of the in-demand service of phone sex.
More surprisingly still, these ladies are so good at what they do, that even taking pointers from them was a breath of sexy, fresh air. They’ve given us the top five pointers on what to say to keep the conversation going smooth, and get both you and your partner, firmly within the city limits of O-Town.
Be Confidently Sexy
Sometimes, when you’re trying out any new sexy maneuver, it can be a bit intimidating. To avoid getting “stuck” in a narrative, or trailing off into an awkward silence- remember that you are sexy.
Get yourself in the mood beforehand by donning some ultra-sexy lingerie or putting on your favorite getting busy soundtrack. “The key to great phone sex is not only being able to create new narratives, but also being able to follow the lead you’re being given.” Says Riya, a 27-year-old operator from Delhi. “Being able to really listen to what your partner is saying is super important. They will tell you how sexy they think you are and how excited they are for what’s happening: take that in and let it move the conversation along naturally.”
Play with New Ideas
Phone sex is all about fantasy. It’s about being able to play with all the naughty little thoughts that bounce around in your imagination throughout the day. Whether you’re talking about “that one time at the movies” or imagining something dirty that you haven’t done yet, it’s perfectly okay to embellish.
Kiara, a 21-year-old phone sexpert says “fantasy is the best part of mutually enjoyable phone sex. Your minds can take you to places that you’d never dream of going in real life. That’s what makes it so much fun, because on the phone, you can go places that you would never even think about going otherwise.”
It’s Okay to Set Boundaries
The regal momma of the phone sex hotline, Sai, reminds everyone to “set your boundaries early. If there’s something you’re not comfortable talking about- speak up!
It’s perfectly okay to change the narrative or move the conversation to something that you both can enjoy.” Which is great advice for any first timer. It’s unlikely that you’ll disappoint your partner even if you’re not particularly impressed by the fantasy they’re bringing to the table.
Just topic hop in a sexy way until you reach a place that gets you both going. Never feel the need to participate in sexual conversation that makes you feel uncomfortable or on edge.
Leave Them Wanting More
Arabian Nights isn’t the only tale that can take years to talk out. Just because you start the phone sex game doesn’t mean you have to, or should, finish it. Sometimes, being left hanging is more sexually intensive than the orgasm itself!
“The best phone sex between couples is the conversation that makes you ache to get back home” Pihu, 32, tells us. “If you have already reached a climax, the animalistic need to see your partner may be diminished.
There’s always something very sexy about leaving your audience wanting more. Whether it ends with a sexy ‘to be continued..’ or a more abrupt ‘I have a meeting I can’t possibly miss’ set yourself up to be in high demand with not divulging all of your secrets every time.
Through in Some Cheeky Extras
Possibly the best part about DIY phone sex is that you can always up the ante with a naughty picture or heading straight into the hottest realm of FaceTime video sex.
Feel free to strike up the conversation by sending occasional flirty texts out of the blue. If you really want to paint a clear picture of what you’re after, there’s no need for the ultra-obvious “phone sex?” Text.
Instead, start with a few minor lay revealing snaps or some suggestive photos of your bedroom littered with your lingerie and a sex toy or two. “Phone sex isn’t always about what you say. In fact, it’s most often about how you frame the discussion in the first place.
If you know what your SO is into, send them a message with an acknowledgement to those things. Like, if he’s a leg man, then send him a sexy pic of those stems!” Brilliant advice from ever stunning, 20-year-old Avni.